Domestic Abuse & Sexual Violence Can Happen to Anyone
Men and boys can be victims of domestic abuse and sexual violence, in relationships, families, friendships, institutions, or community settings.
But too often, men are made to feel like they won’t be believed, or that abuse “shouldn’t” happen to them.
We want you to know: it can, and it does and you are not alone.
At The Blue Door we provide specialist, trauma-informed support for men and boys who have experienced or are experiencing:
Domestic abuse
Domestic abuse can affect anyone, regardless of gender. It can involve physical harm, threats, emotional abuse, or control by a partner, ex-partner, or family member. If you’re frightened or being controlled, it’s abuse and you have the right to safety and support.
Sexual violence or abuse
Sexual violence can include rape, sexual assault, or any sexual activity that happens without your consent. Men and boys can be victims too, and your experience is valid. We offer confidential, specialist support for anyone affected, whether it happened recently or in the past.
Coercive control, psychological abuse, stalking or harassment
These forms of abuse are about power and control. You might feel constantly watched, monitored, or isolated from friends and family. You may receive unwanted messages or be followed. Our team can help you understand what’s happening and plan for your safety.
Tech-based abuse, financial control, or sexual exploitation
Abuse isn’t always physical. It can involve someone tracking your phone, controlling your money, sharing images without consent, or pressuring you into sexual activity. If someone is using technology or resources to control or exploit you, that’s abuse and we can help.
Our services are confidential, inclusive, and open to all men, including gay, bisexual, trans, non-binary, disabled and male-identifying survivors.
All Our Services Are Available to Men
You have the same right to support as anyone else. Every service we offer is open to men and tailored to meet your needs, including:
Initial needs and risk assessments
IDVA and ISVA support
One-to-one outreach and advocacy
Counselling and therapeutic services
Safety planning
Support navigating police, courts, housing and safeguarding systems
Group support and wellbeing programmes
Understanding the Impact on Men
We understand that being a male survivor can bring unique challenges.
You may:
Struggle with shame, self-blame or fear of being judged
Feel pressure to “stay strong” or not speak about what happened
Fear not being believed or taken seriously
Experience mental health difficulties, isolation, or suicidal thoughts
Be a father and worried about contact, safeguarding or parenting
We recognise these barriers and we’re here to support you without judgement, pressure or assumptions. Our team is trained to support male survivors safely, sensitively, and respectfully.
Men-Only Support Options
Some men prefer support in spaces where they feel completely understood. That’s why we offer men-only options, including:
Men-Only Support & Recovery Groups
Facilitated groups where you can:
Connect with other male survivors in a safe, supportive environment
Share experiences (only if you feel ready, there’s never any pressure)
Learn tools to manage trauma, anger, shame or anxiety
Feel less isolated and more empowered in your recovery
These groups are built around trust, confidentiality and peer support.
Men’s Recovery & Wellbeing Programmes
Practical, therapeutic group sessions that focus on:
Rebuilding confidence and self-esteem
Understanding the impact of abuse and trauma
Managing stress, emotions and mental health
Creating a positive future after abuse
Our team includes practitioners who are specially trained in supporting male survivors.
You Deserve Support
Whether you’ve just left an abusive situation or are still living with it whether the abuse happened last week or years ago you deserve help.
You don’t need to have reported it. You don’t need to be in crisis. You just need to be ready to talk.
We will believe you. We will support you. And we will stand beside you without judgement.
Get in Touch
Reach out to us for confidential support or information about our services for men:
For Professionals
If you’re a professional looking to refer a male client, please use our referral form or get in touch to discuss options.
You Are Not Alone
Abuse can happen to anyone. Recovery is possible.
We’re here, when you’re ready.